The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People "…My wife and I just don't have the same feelings for each other we used to have. I guess I just don't love her anymore and she doesn't love me. What can I do?" - The feeling isn't there anymore? - I asked. - That's right, - he reaffirmed. - And we have three children we're really concerned about. What do you suggest? - Love her - I replied. - I told you, the feeling just isn't there anymore. - Love her. - You don't understand. The feeling of love just isn't there. - Then love her. If the feeling isn't there, that's a good reason to love her. - But how do you love when you don't love? - My friend, love is a verb. Love — the feeling — is a fruit of love the verb. So love her. Sacrifice. Listen to her. Empathize. Appreciate. Affirm her. Are you willing to do that?" " As such, love becomes a word with two meanings depending on the context we speak in, IMHO. A verb and a noun... Currently, it's being used as a noun. When people say "love", it is referred to as a feeling... In a way...we allow ourselves to become puppets of our feelings. It is not love, the feeling, but love, the action, that once we hone our abilities for the act of love… I myself consider love as a verb. Love is a to-do Just want to take good care of you...